What
do you do when you have been widowed a second time and have five children;
three of them under three years of age; the youngest less than two weeks old ?
Look
for a replacement, that’s what. And if there was an ideal candidate close by; right
on your doorstep, next door or even IN your house – even better.
Thomas
Kelsey, my 2 times great grandfather had three wives. This piece of information
was one of the things that lit the fire for genealogy for me as a child. I didn’t
know anyone who had more than one wife. My grandmother had two instances in her
immediate family ! This grandfather married three times, her other grandfather
married twice. I was hooked !
Thomas
married his first wife Mary James, my 2 times great grandmother in the Bethel
Primitive Methodist Chapel in Dudley in 1875. Thomas was employed with the
Great Western Railway. By the time of their marriage he had worked his way up
from a shunter to a railway guard.
He
and his young wife lived in Junction Street, Wolverhampton where they had two
children before Mary passed away leaving a son, almost 3, and a 10 month old daughter.
These two children were taken in by Mary’s father and her unmarried sister and
spent at least the next six years with them in Dudley.
Thomas
remarried in 1886 to Louisa Charlotte Rudd. In 1881 she had been a Nurse
Domestic on the census, maybe her field of employment made her an ideal
candidate to take on his children and have them returned to him. There is
no-one to ask how they met so we will never know for sure. It is also not clear
how quickly after this marriage that his children were welcomed back into his
home.
Thomas
and Louisa had three children in quick succession, and sadly she passed away
just nine days after the birth of the 3rd baby in 1890.
Twelve
months later at the 1891 census, Louisa’s elder unmarried sister Clara and her
widowed father are living with Thomas and his five children in Dunstall Road. Clara
is listed as House Keeper. So to be fair, Thomas didn’t rush into a 3rd
marriage. But he did marry Clara three years later just four months before the
birth of their daughter.